Those are the ways things are going to go bad. For what that's worth, anyway Might as well spare him your lies of omission. He's going to find out and feel how he feels. I don't know why this sort of thing feels like a betrayal, but it does, and you should take that seriously. Putting myself in his shoes, I'd probably be hurt and angry, as well. To be honest, my guy and I just announced to our general social circle that we're moving in together, and my ex seemed kind of awkward about it. I only found out because a mutual friend told me in a really roundabout way since he thought it was sketchy. We can't date if you're not on board with all of this. We did this before telling anyone else about it. I guess this is a fairly common situation, but I'm new to this sort of dilemma and don't know what to do. If not, think very carefully about whether you want to do something you know will hurt a good friend in order to date someone who may well be on the rebound. I think some people deal with the end of their relationships by clinging a bit to that world of the ex, the familiar, the easy. He doesn't own her and no one is being unfaithful so it is okay to do something you know will hurt him if that much is at stake for the two of you. Though I started dating my ex's friend several months after we broke up, it has to be said. Unless she's the future mother of your children and has a glittery hoo-ha, I don't think it's worth the risk. And one month-post-breakup is not a time when anyone is known for being particularly mature, you know?
I'm very much of the "he doesn't own her and has no say in who she gets to date" school of thought, but while that is absolutely true it's probably not going to mitigate his hurt feelings for the near future. I haven't been able to retain the same level of friendship with my friend. I'm just saying that the Average Reasonable Person would likely be upset if their friend did this to them, and they wouldn't be a whiny baby for feeling that way. BUT it did torpedo both of their friendships with First Girlfriend. The question is, which do you value more, his friendship or the potential relationship with his ex? We were never friends again. Is losing the friendship worth it? We've all probably been there at some point - the nice best friend of the boyfriend, then huzzah, suddenly he's the One. If the connection is in fact meaningful enough to potentially risk your relationship with your old friend, it will survive the months needed to let the temperature drop and give her space to process her very recent ex-relationship. You are within your rights to date this woman, but it would hurt him, and you would do it knowingly. I just don't think it's a healthy thing to do, and the short duration of time that's elapsed is a Big Red Flag to getting yourself hurt, and abandoned by two people you used to know well. I'm now trying to decide between calling the thing with her off and trying to be friends again, or pursuing the relationship at the likely cost of a friend. Maybe even more, if you're going to do it at all. Two more bits of advice: The simplest answer is: But if all three of you are the type of people who can live with that, I think that this could be OK. I think some people deal with the end of their relationships by clinging a bit to that world of the ex, the familiar, the easy. And i have many cohorts who finally stopped doing that and only then realized how little breathing room it had given them and how much drama had flown by. But I do have a pair of friends who got together about six months after the guy broke up with another girl they'd both been friends with. I didn't expect any kind of "honorable" behavior from my ex, but I did expect it from my best friend. I was basically like, "You know I dated X, but also here are extenuating circumstances Y that you probably don't know about, all of which means what I'm looking for right now is Z. Be friends with both and keep things friendly for now, and give it more than two weeks before you start dating. You have every right and reason to make whichever decision you feel is in your best interests, but you can't control the fallout from whatever choice you make. That puts him in an impossible position: The only clear thing is that you must talk to the friend if you do go forward. He was accused of being a predator, waiting for the former friends' relationship to fail.
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